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“Study the past, if you would divine the future.” ~~Confucius

Relationships are strengthened as a function of frequency and recency. (That’s not a word, I know, but rhymes well and helps remind of the concept.)

My grammar school experience was in a class of about thirty kids in the nineteen-sixties.  From first grade through eighth we all stayed together, adding and losing a few along the way.  This was many years ago and I estimate that fifteen kids were with me most of the way while another fifty or sixty revolved at four years or less.  Each year we had one teacher all day and were with gym teachers, librarians, administration, lunch room people, janitors, etc.  Our class moved like a bubble through this populated, shifting environment.

That is how all of our experiences are.  Church.  College.  Military service.  Career(s.)  Hobbies.  Neighborhoods.  I can still name most of the fifteen that stayed with me in grammar school as well as most of the teachers, gym teachers, etc.

Frequency was what cemented the relationship as we were together for eight years every school day.  None are recent as grammar school was long ago.  We were together through the Cuban missile crisis, Kennedy’s assassination, and so on.  As children world events swirled around the bubble of our relationships.

I turn your mind to this so you can also consider your past briefly.  There are people you were inseparable from in relationships forged by intense frequency. If you were to reconnect the bond can be quickly reestablished at a very deep level.

For master networkers the Internet in general and Facebook™ in particular makes it very easy to reconnect with these important people in our lives.

Take a few moments to draw out the names of those you cared about in the past.  They felt the same way and, given an opportunity to help you would do so willingly.  Networking with the willing is far more effective than networking with strangers, by the way. Many of us never take advantage of this powerful resource, though.

Once you have a list of people you would like to reconnect with consider what to offer them.  Maybe it is simply to reconnect.  They will likely celebrate your business success or new grandchild just as excitedly as you.  These are simple places to start and should lead quickly to areas of more significant value.  Some of your old friends may be in the same field as you with brighter credentials.  If so, they may want to mentor you.  Others may be starting on a path you have already walked and you can mentor them.  More likely they are in different fields and can become connectors into new networks.  Again, consider your intent.  You are there to reconnect and add value to their lives, as well.

Most importantly, simply enjoy this walk down memory lane on this day dedicated to rebirth.

© 2013 by Stephen Hand of Triangle BNI.
All rights reserved. No part of this document may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without prior written permission of Stephen Hand of Triangle BNI.


Written by bniguy

March 31, 2013 at 8:16 am

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